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Dear Tami,
I am a 28 yr old who is a single mother. Unfortunately, I did not learn my
lesson the first time and now I am pregnant from another deadbeat. We were
dating for two years and when I became pregnant he decide after my 3rd month
that I should have an abortion. I refused and now he refuses to help me in any
way shape or form. Yes, he will gladly be intimate, but he works two jobs and
doesn't think his responsibility is until the child is born. I am totally
crushed because I never thought in a thousand years that he would have abandoned
me with his first child after dating for two years. So here I am again dealing
with another pregnancy by myself and It's getting harder and harder. I really am
having a hard time coping with this and talking to him just doesn't help at all.
Sincerely,
Can't cope with this reality
Answer to Can't cope with
this reality,
I don’t
know if you are still with him or not, but he needs to read up on abortion laws
and the difference between a first trimester abortion and a second trimester
abortion. If he is still hanging around take him to this site and let him read
up on it and see then how he feels about your “refusal”.
http://www.abortionfacts.com/
I am not sure what state you live in, but the law is most likely on your side. I
know the states I have lived in are very down on deadbeat dads. They will see
that you are taken care of. They have a good incentive to see that he pays you,
so the state doesn’t have to. This is speculation, since I do not know what
state or county you live in. You should be able to find a lot of information
from the county DA.
Raising children has got to be the
hardest job on the planet and unfortunately, in your situation I don’t have any
suggestions on how to make it easier. Maybe you would be better off to just take
care of yourself, your child and the one on the way instead of wasting time
talking to him. If he is going to come around he has to do it on his own. You
have more important things to deal with.
Do you have any support groups you can join or attend? Also adoption is an
option for many.
Love your children and let them give you the motivation to keep going.
Please be strong for them.
Ms Independent
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