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Article on Setting Goals from
"A-Woman's-Life"
"Goals to ask for" by Tami Marple
If you'd only ask! Anything is possible!
DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DESIRE FROM LIFE?
Make a goal list of 100 things you would like. This is a big job, but your
future is worth it. How can you expect to receive what you want if you don't
know what you want?
Example:
1. happiness
2. home
3. hope
4. career of my choice
5. college
6. complete my Master's Degree by 2007
Why so many goals?
1. Some goals will come to fruition quicker than others. Goals have different
gestation periods. Some are accomplished quickly, some take many years.
2. When you reach a goal it loses power and importance for us. We need plenty
more to keep our conscious and subconscious mind at work.
3. Since you can have almost anything you really want, why settle for less?
There is abundance everywhere and it is meant for you to have. Do not worry, you
receiving what you want will not take away from anyone else.
Do your goals have to be accomplished tomorrow? Next week? This year? Of course
not! Your goals can be added to, subtracted from and achieved as you move
through life.
Here is a checklist to ensure you're using a successful framework to set your
100 goals.
- Your goals must be yours and not anyone else's. Your most important goals must
be YOURS. Not your spouse's. Not your children's. Not your employer's. But
yours. When you let other people determine your definition of success, you're
sabotaging your own future.
- Your goals must be meaningful to you. Your goals must MEAN something to you.
Your reasons for charting a new course of action gives you the drive and energy
to get up every morning.
- Your goals must be realistic. Be expansive but don't be ridiculous. If you're
four feet tall, you'll probably never play in the WNBA.
- Your goals must be specific and measurable. Vague generalizations and
wishy-washy statements aren't good enough. Be very specific! If you want to
learn to swim make sure you write, "I am going to take swimming lessons at my
local community center this month." If you write, "I want to learn to swim," you
may find yourself sinking in a boat on a lake and learning the hard way!
- Your goals must be challenging. Force yourself to jump out of your comfort
zone to acquire that much needed energy and edge.
- Your goals must be flexible. A flexible plan keeps you from feeling suffocated
and allows you to take advantage of genuine opportunities that walk in your
future door.
Don't go back and read what you have written until you have finished. If you do
so, you'll probably find that you begin judging every goal - and yourself - for
wanting them. Just write.
ARE YOU WILLING TO ASK FOR IT?
Few things in life come without asking for it. Even as a baby we asked by
crying. We cried to be fed, have our diapers changed and because we wanted
relief from pain. In school we had to try out for the team, because they didn't
come to us. In order to get a job these days you have to ask for it during and
after the interview. There is so much competition if you don't ask for it you
may not get the job.
ARE YOU WILLING TO WORK SMART?
How do you get more done in less time?
ARE YOU WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES?
If you work smart, making sacrifices will be
minimal. You may have to sacrifice a job if you want to start your own company;
you may have to sacrifice a poker game once a week in order to work for that
extra vacation money.
Think about it. All that is standing in the way of you receiving everything you
want out of life is YOU asking for it.
THERE ARE FOUR MAIN REASONS
WHY WE DON'T ASK FOR WHAT WE WANT:
1. Ignorance
2. Fear
3. Pride
4. Low Self-Esteem
IGNORANCE - you may not know that you can have anything you set your mind to. An
unawareness of something, often of importance.
FEAR - the fear of asking and the chance or likelihood of an undesirable
outcome.
PRIDE - asking is a sign of weakness. The thought that one is better than
another.
LOW SELF ESTEEM –- not believing one is good enough to deserve what they want to
ask for.
Nothing makes you feel more alive than living consciously, knowing exactly what
it is that you really want and the more wishes you have the better. Just ask for
them!
Reference M.V. Hansen
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