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Mini Article on
Perfection from
"A-Womans-Life.com"
No one is
perfect, are you? by Tami Marple
Are your friends perfect?
Are your pets perfect?
Are your parents perfect?
Are your children perfect?
Were your teachers perfect?
Is the mailman perfect?
Is your computer perfect?
NO
Since nothing on this earth is perfect, why in the world would you think
you need to be. No one expects you to be perfect, except you. To want
only perfection from yourself is unrealistic and a disaster waiting to
happen. No one expects the degree of perfection you may expect from
yourself.
Life isn't perfect either.
Have you ever watched a movie and noticed that something is not quite
right? I don't remember the name of the flick, but it was based in the
50's and they kept showing street scenes with ATM machines.
Unfortunately, I am old enough to know that there were no ATMs in that
era. The director should have caught it, but he is not perfect either.
Does that mean no one watches the movies?
What kind of computer do you have? When was the last time it crashed?
They are not perfect, yet we all have them. Don't we?
When do you laugh the hardest? I bet it is when someone has done
something funny, wrong or stupid. Just so long as we are laughing with
them and not at them. There are comedy shows like Saturday Night Live
that thrive on segments about real people? Do we enjoy the pleasure they
bring?
What if you did something different to your hair, say shaved it, cut it
or dyed it. And unfortunately it didn't turn out very well. Would your
friends run out on you? I would hope not. If they did, then they weren't
real friends in the first place.
Have you ever analyzed something to a fault and found out you still made
a mistake? Bought a money pit of a house? Purchased a lemon of a
vehicle? Married the wrong person? Are you a screw up just because you
may have screwed up? Not likely.
How often have you gotten lost driving to a new address or taking a
shortcut? You probably got real upset with yourself while you were
driving around, but when you finally reached your destination your
frustrations disappeared. Amazingly, you were just relieved you made it.
Have you ever said something that makes you want to crawl under a rock?
You go to bed that night and repeat the scene in your mind over and
over. If you are lucky it doesn't flow into the next day. I do not know
of anyone who hasn't had this kind of experience. Most of the time you
laugh about it after all is said and done. Think about it, have you ever
watched a presidential speech or debate? And they have advisors.
I bet even Martha has burned a meal, and Betsy has missed a stitch. I
wonder if Abe ever told a lie?
So why do we have dictionaries, spell checkers, insurance companies,
editing machines, white out, Band-Aids, divorces and return policies?
Because, nothing is perfect.
Women striving for perfection may look like they have it all together.
Their looks, hair, make-up and clothes are always in check. A good
portion of their day may be devoted to looking perfect and they might
not leave the house if they don't feel they look just right. They always
seem to be the perfect weight. They may believe perfection is a product
of diets and excessive exercise. They could also be victim to bulimia or
anorexia. In magazines and on TV they see women with spectacular bodies
and faces and want to compete with them; then they compare themselves
with those women, which makes them feel inadequate, ashamed of their
bodies and less feminine. They don't feel worthy of what they believe
the perfect women should be. Can they be happy with what they were born
with, and what they have developed into, or can develop into?
Some women may not accept other people unless they have high standards
like themselves. They have the perfect home, clean, organized and
everything in its place. They allow no one to visit unless it is
spotless. The perfectionist could possibly drive others away by being
too perfect. For example, it would be like them having a friend over who
feels so uncomfortable in the spotless house that they leave. Visitors
are afraid to touch anything or maybe they are followed around making
sure they always have a coaster. You know the type?
Perfectionists may have the best looking yard on the block, but that
isn't enough - they then want the best looking yard in the neighborhood
and then the city and so on.
And although on the outside they seem to be in such control and perfect,
they are usually struggling inside with their perception of success and
perfection. They usually have low self esteem, low self image, anxiety
and are depressed. Perfectionism affects about half of all women and can
range from mild to very serious. They may not even know they have it or
are in denial. Who knows, maybe the woman standing in front of you in
line at the grocery store is obsessed with being perfect. You may just
look at them and think they have it all together.
Someone saying to the perfectionist that they expect more from them is
devastating. Such as a supervisor at work letting them know that they
should be producing four reports a day instead of three, or that they
need to sell one million dollars worth of product or services; that five
hundred thousand is not acceptable.
If they meet a man who only wants the perfect woman, they should let him
go. There is no such thing as the perfect woman and trying to be the
perfect person for him is only going to compound their negative thoughts
about themselves.
Instead of being happy about what they do right, they are always beating
themselves up for what they did wrong.
So how perfect are you?
How perfect do you want to be, or do you just want to enjoy life?
Ideas. Have a friend over and let them put their feet on the coffee
table or make dinner and let the dishes sit in the sink for a while
before cleaning up. Do your yard work without makeup and don't pursue a
man who does not accept you for yourself.
When was the last time you did something to improve your heart, mind and
soul? Instead of striving to be perfect, just be the best you can be and
happiness will come.
Tami Marple |
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