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Mini
Article on Self Esteem from
"A-Woman's-Life"
"Doomed or Not" by Tami Marple
Today started off on a bad note. I arose 15
minutes late to get ready for work. The whole morning perpetuated into a huge
ball of shambles.
The cup of coffee that I usually begin my routine with was half spilt on the
floor. I had tripped on the oversized rug that I had fallen in love with and
just had to have. What was I thinking when I bought the stupid thing and now it
was slowing me down. I did manage to get my blood flowing with a half empty cup
of java, which also had scalded my tongue as I drank it too quickly.
I start thinking to myself of all the things that will probably go wrong just
trying to get ready for work. Sometimes I forget to remember that I and only I
have the power to destroy my morning, my day, my life. And on this particular
morning I had already started the process by planning to sabotage every move I
was going to make.
Normally the shower is my refuge, but not today. Instead it is a very slippery
confined area where things such as oversized bottles of shampoo are very easily
dropped on my uncovered toes. And to help make up for some of my lost time I
tried to cut out steps such as shaving my underarms, which left me feeling
unfinished and not as clean as I might normally feel. But at least my hair has
been shampooed and a bar of soap has grazed my body.
While I am in the shower I am concentrating on the exact steps I need to take in
order to complete my morning rituals without missing a step. I keep picturing
myself accidentally walking out the front door without my underwear on, or
forgetting to put on my blush, etc.
Anyway, in the shower I gained back a few of my lost 15 minutes, but when I try
to get my eye makeup on I realize that I am shaking with the very thought of
being late again and my mascara ends up smearing ever so slightly under my eye.
Cleaning up the little black glob under my eye means I just lost the few
precious moments I had gained in the shower. I am doomed. All I want to do is
take a small breath and relax or maybe cry, but I don't have the time. There are
too many other things I need to do to screw up my morning.
As the day slowly progresses the thought keeps running through my mind, Why
didn't I just get up on time? But as I was lying in bed I could think of nothing
but reasons not to get up. I hate my job, I am fat, no one at work cares whether
I am there or not, my manager thinks my work sucks, I am poor, I am all alone
and no one will be there for me when I get home from work. Staying in bed seems
to be such a nice safe place, a place where I can escape my humdrum of a life by
hiding in-between sheets and sleeping.
By the time I do get to work I have worked myself into a craze. And it is all
self inflicted. The rest of the day follows suit, as does the rest of the week,
month and year. Why is life such a struggle? Why does everything bad happen to
me? I see myself as a victim. I talk to myself as though I have gotten the short
end of the stick in life. I say to myself that I am not good enough and I hate
myself. Once again my low self-esteem and negative attitude have gotten the best
of me.
On the other hand, a more positive person will wake up and want to get out of
bed to greet another day. Facing each minute with an optimistic attitude.
Turning each challenge into an opportunity to grow and learn.
To the positive person, spilt coffee doesn't mean that the rest of their day,
week, month or life will be a disaster - unless they let it be.
The power of self-esteem can make or break your life. If you keep telling
yourself you are a failure, you will be a failure. Tell yourself you are going
to have a bad day and you will have a bad day. Tell yourself you are a success
and you will be successful. For you are the only one in control of the thoughts
in your head and negativity will breed negativity, but a positive attitude will
lead to more positive thoughts, such as I can do it and I can overcome these
hurdles.
People with low self-esteem believe they attract bad karma and will take a
problem and turn it into a catastrophe. Whereas healthy positive thinkers look
at a problem then focus on a solution instead of getting caught up in the
negativity of it.
Positive thinking is a thriving state of well being, and can be found in every
area of our lives. It can include having a successful family life, enjoying a
healthy body and positive belief system, working with great people who love and
respect you, experiencing joy every day, etc. It will be different for everyone.
The way to begin to live a life of positive thinking is by examining your
beliefs and your mental self-talk. To flourish greatly you must know how to
control your own thinking by taking in all things that will lead you to good
thoughts and excluding all things that will not. It takes discipline to think
positively and not negatively.
Here are a few suggestions for a more positive attitude:
1. Avoid the negative thinkers in your life - the people who shrug their
shoulders when you tell them about your dreams. The people who leave you feeling
as though you are a failure and will always be one. The people who make you feel
down about yourself and life. These people are usually very challenged in their
positive belief area themselves. Their negativity can be very infectious.
2. Stick close to the people in your life that make you feel good. We all have
met someone in our lives that makes us feel warm and fuzzy inside. Those are the
people to interact with. Your head is always held a little higher and you feel
as though you can do anything you put your mind to after an interaction with
them. They are usually people you look up to and respect.
3. Write in a journal. Extract the negative thoughts and get them on paper,
which will leave room for more positive thinking.
4. Don't let your spilt coffee be the determining factor of your day, week,
month or life.
As mentioned before, thinking of success will make you successful. Thinking of
poverty will make you poor. The bottom line is: you have to think it before you
can achieve it. Positive thinking is a state of mind. Change your beliefs and
you'll change your life.
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