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Mini Article on Loneliness from
"A-Womans-Life.com"
Loneliness by Tami Marple
Loneliness can be the most
horrifying emotion you ever experience. It can
cause you to do and feel things you may not normally do. Like overeating or
you may turn to alcohol or drugs as a crutch. Or maybe you may find yourself
sucked into meaningless and destructive relationships. If you are not
careful all the things you do to mask the pain of loneliness can actually
intensify it. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to take on the
challenge of fighting and winning the feeling of loneliness. Kudos to you if
you have successfully learned to address your attitude which controls your
ability to positively deal with this emotion.
Being lonely may be caused by the loss of someone dear, an unfulfilling
marriage, being single or a host of other things. One thing that is not
necessarily the cause of loneliness is being alone. Many people who are
married, living with someone or surrounded by people are just as lonely as a
single person.
Some of the symptoms of loneliness include:
Fatigue
Lethargy
Anxiety attacks
Suicidal feelings
Loss of or increased appetite
Avoiding other people
Disconnection
Unworthiness
Lack of self confidence
Low self esteem
Obsession
Addiction
Lack of fulfillment
What loneliness isn't:
Lack of being cared about
Something wrong with you
Weakness
A one person feeling
(everyone feels it at one
time or another)
There are several ways to deal with loneliness when you feeling it coming
on. You may find it come in waves of lows and highs instead of a continuous
emotion that never seems to leave.
Try an activity, craft or hobby that you can emerge in and be fulfilled.
Find something you enjoy and not just because it may be a great way of
meeting people. So if by some chance you don't meet anyone at least you will
have enjoyed how you spent your time.
Try to develop a friendship with a person who shares your views and perhaps
has had similar experiences as you. If you find this person as a friend you
may want to hold on to them since best friends are in high demand yet hard
to find. A lot of friendships outlast marriages. So be picky when selecting
either one.
Set some goals for yourself, like saving money for your first home. Or maybe
you would like a new wardrobe, or redecorate a room in your house or plan a
well deserved vacation. A goal gives you something to get motivated and plan
for. When you feel the loneliness coming on, go house shopping or go out and
try on clothes or look at model homes and magazines for decorating ideas or
maybe go on line and visit vacation spots. Keep pictures and notes of your
goal(s) in easy access, which will help your spirits and motivation.
When your mind is sidetracked by something that is of high interest to you,
you are better prepared to fight off the feelings of loneliness.
Keep in contact with friends old and new. Don't wait for them to contact
you. Take the first or next step, make your move.
Exercise is a great way to release negative energy. When you need to destroy
an ugly feeling or get an alert mind, physical exercise is a wonderful, very
therapeutic answer.
Read a book on what you are going through: loneliness, dependency, being
single, a divorce, a separation, a change in your family, a new family or
blended family. Find something that covers your interests and challenges,
something that works for you. It is always very comforting to know that you
are not the only one to ever feel the way you do and others have lived
through it just as you will.
A must have e-book on Loneliness
"Women Living Single and Liking It".
Click here for more
information on what is inside.
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